Your age does not and cannot determine your physical looks, your abilities, capabilities, performance, character and personality – no matter what area of life we're talking about.
Neither can the society which is only imposing these and similar ageist stereotypes and prejudice.
Describing someone by their age is as unacceptable as describing them by their gender, race, religion or skin color. It is yet another example of discrimination.
“What do you mean “old“? Too old for this or that? What do you mean “it's high time you did...“ Wait a minute! Are you talking about me, my own life, my destiny, my goals, plans, my notion of the world and life, my inner and outer experience?
No, you're not, you're pushing your way of thinking, your ideas and ageist stereotypes upon me, and I won't go under the influence. “
This is an answer you should give to a typical and stereotypical ageist questions and comments coming from “personas“ who have come down under and adopted ageist stereotypical mindset.
Nobody knows you better than yourself, how old you really feel, or if you feel old at all because age and aging are about your own “inner feeling and experience“ and not about statistics. Because that's what numbers are: nothing more than a conventional statistics. Even looking from the outside, you will probably see a 40 year old woman or a 50 year old one looking much younger and very good – and I'm not talking about plastic surgeries, which is another topic and another “conventional trend“ nowadays that even extremely young girls and women have accepted, destroying thus they real and true beauty which should have been nourished in other ways.
Talking about women specifically, many of them suffer from the “madness“ called ageism, and plastic surgeries appear to be one of the most prominent symptoms. The society with its demand may be harsh, but the harsher is what you do to yourself if you succumb, forget who you are, your needs, your true and authentic self.
And by the way, did you know that the very fountain of youth is already within you?
You shouldn't let others destroy it, or deny it – and this is what ageism is about.
It is 21century. Try to improve your thinking, or at least broaden your mind a little bit.
Those who are pushing ageist stereotyping upon themselves and others “practise“ Middle Ages way of thinking.
The most unfortunate way of thinking is the “age limits“ one draws, so to say, and according to which one measures his achievements, goals, aims, success and failure, and which make us (or we make ourselves) bring very important life decisions which can be far-fetching.
For example, our society has set up the belief that there is the best period of life, which suggests we reached the peak of excellence at a randomly selected age, (mis)leading us to believe that we become less in all aspects of our life, i.e. personality, abilities, capacities and attractiveness past age 30. This is a real and an extremely absurd concept, unproven and scientifically completely false. But it is still a powerful belief that affects many people's self-esteem and influences many of our most critical life decisions.
How many times have both women and men been under attack like this questions/comments: “You're 30, and not married yet, no kids yet? Don't you think you're getting too old for that once you cross over 30? “ Or: How do you mean changing your job and starting a new career at 40?!“
Old, or too old concept has a pejorative meaning. “Old” is not a useful word to determine ability, it's only a stereotyped label. Individuals age differently, so nobody has the right to make generalizations or judgments on the basis of chronological/statistical age.
Ageist stereotypes are also very common when it comes to employment. The word “old” has so many negative implications in this context, especially when describing people over-50s and over-60s. Being 50, 60 or 70 is not an indication of physical or mental abilities. It does not signify that someone has serious health problems and will soon be unfit to work, or no longer able to learn new skills. People at that stage of their lives could be full of energy and eager to gain new experiences and acquire new skills. meaning could be ready for a whole new beginning and a new career.
Going back to the typical and most prevalent example of ageism stereotyping: people (especially women) and their looks. People are quick to judge one another by their looks and then told their looks fade over time, which leads them to believe they will be less valued as they age. No wonder women- and unfortunately extremely young ones spend billions of dollars every year on Botox, anti-age creams and cosmetic surgeries to trying to ward off most usually imposed aging.
The sad thing is that woman are widely using ageism against one another in a constant completion called: “who’s gonna look younger and more beautiful”.
The good thing and the very truth is that this spell can be broken, and no matter your age, there is a unique beauty in a woman at every stage (of her life). The same applies to men.
The message is: leave labels behind and recognize the wonderful diversity of personalities, characters, looks “at every stage of age“.
It can only bring benefit not only to individuals, but the society in general.
And remember: Enjoy your life, enjoy your true self, it is never too late for anything you wish for.
C A T E G O R I E S:
“The day she realised, it was not about the world but was all about her, she grew the wings. The day she understood she was not answerable to any of them who always blamed and pointed her, she had the fire blazing in her eyes. She raised and soared towards the sky. The whole world looked at her in awe and wished if only they could be her. She was not confined to be on the ground anymore. She had the wings of fire and she left a trail everywhere she went, for other to follow.”
― Akshau Vasu