Anyone who has to reconcile work and family is automatically under great stress. Suddenly it is no longer just a question of meeting the demands of the job, but also of reconciling the needs of the children with all other obligations. In the endeavor to fulfill all these expectations and tasks as ideally as possible, it quickly falls away from the fulfillment of personal recovery phases.
What does the double burden of job and child really mean and how you can master it despite everything? Read here.
When the stress level climbs up
Even the "normal" everyday life can be very stressful: between work, household and shopping there often remains very little time when one can just relax and let the day fade away in peace. Many people complain - rightly so - about a very high stress level in everyday life. When the needs of a family come along, the stress level increases again. After all, it is no longer just your own demands and the deadline pressure at work that are in the foreground, but above all the needs of the children.
This burden used to be "solved" by a barely questioned role distribution: man went to work and earned the money for the family, while wife stayed with children and took care of the household. This “picture” of work and family has meanwhile changed. Women also want to realize themselves professionally, many men take more responsibility at home. Thus, both partners share the duties and burdens. Somewhat different is the situation with single parents: they handle everything alone, from work to household to the care of children, and are therefore usually under particular pressure.
The challenges of the job / child combination and its consequences
As easy as initially planned, it is usually not to get the family and the job under one roof - because even with the best planning, many factors cannot be foreseen. Sometimes one of the children is sick or you, and sometimes the car breaks down, sometimes your own parents need support, the friends, the rest of the family or the partner. That's how the responsibility is summed up and the challenges of everyday life seem to be growing bigger. These include, for example:
So, stress continues to increase and without enough time for recovery, it can have serious consequences on the health. The stress symptoms include among others
Assistance for the double burden - job and child
Be aware of the fact that you do not have to do everything on your own. You can ask others who are able to assist you. For example, babysitters, neighbors, or family members could pick up the children at the daycare center if it doesn’t collide with their work and responsibilities. This takes some pressure and hectic from your everyday life and gives you the opportunity to make better use of time - while the children are well looked after.
Do not stay alone with your worries. Talk to friends and acquaintances, browse the Internet for related forums, or visit parental groups or free-lancers in order to share with others. It's good not to be alone with problems and challenges. You can also give each other helpful tips and support.
Bring structure into your everyday life. Yes, not everything can be planned or predicted, but lots of things can. Think about the weekend with the partner and / or the people who help you. Discuss which appointments are pending, who needs to go where, where to stay while. It may also be useful to develop rough "contingency plans", such as what you do when one of the children becomes ill. That gives security and gives you a little more peace.
Take time for yourself and for your partner - without a guilty conscience. Try to consciously enjoy this time of rest and recharge your batteries. For example, agree to have a free Saturday in the month together with the partner, where you only have time for each other. In addition, you can integrate other fixed dates for sports, going out or just to relax in everyday life.